The Barrow

I have struggled with validation-seeking for as long as I can remember, and yet, just recently (within the last few years) am I beginning to understand how much it has negatively impacted my life.

It has jeopardized my friendships, my relationships, my employment, all of this. Someone who is constantly seeking validation feels extremely uncomfortable to everyone else and quickly tangles themselves up in sticky situations which hurt everyone involved. Other people, consciously or not, make themselves scarce when you act like this.

I need to learn to be whole in and of myself, and not outsource my self-worth to everyone else. This would fix the problem from every possible angle. Not only would I require less validation, I would, in fact, receive more.

This ties into the universal paradox of “you receive what you act like you don't need” but that's a topic for another post.

Stay crunchy.